abuser tactics

Episode 69: #SurvivorStories Series with Jessica Ingels on courts giving custody to abusers

On this episode of the en(gender)ed #SurvivorStories series, our guest is Jessica Ingels, a protective mother and domestic violence victim and survivor.  In our conversation, Jessica describes the ways in which her abusive ex-husband has weaponized the courts against her to obtain custody of their daughter, despite her protective order against him and her status…

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Episode 59: #SurvivorStories series with “Ashley” on the dangers of technology–cyberstalking and surveillance

On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is “Ashley” a survivor of intimate partner violence and coercive control and a protective mom.  Ashley is here to speak with us today about the dangers of technology in domestic violence. In particular, Ashley believes that her husband, from whom she is currently separated, had been cyberstalking her…

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This Video is Authentic Gaslighting — not “Authentic Love”

A therapist friend recently shared the below video with me. While I was watching with her, I couldn’t help but pepper my viewing with angry interruptions to correct, challenge and/or contextualize their broad brush strokes that essentially rendered women responsible for patriarchal oppression against men. From Authentic Love Berlin   For those of us who…

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Episode 32: #SurvivorStories Series with Lana on her “Sophie’s Choice” to protect her daughter from CSA

On this #SurvivorStories Series episode, we speak with Lana, a protective mother whose failed plight to seek help from the legal and justice systems in New York City for her daughter has led her to find refuge in Russia.  Lana describes the police, court and child welfare response when she first suspected her toddler daughter…

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Episode 30: #SurvivorStories Series with Anita Gera and the misuse of the Hague Convention to harm children

In this #SurvivorSeries episode, we speak with Anita Gera, a protective mother from Great Britain.  In 2014, Anita went to British government to seek protection against her abusive and controlling ex-husband, an American pilot who was based in Arizona.  Over the next year, through her ex-husband’s misuse of the Hague Convention, Anita’s case brought her…

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