upstander tips

Episode 59: #SurvivorStories series with “Ashley” on the dangers of technology–cyberstalking and surveillance

On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is “Ashley” a survivor of intimate partner violence and coercive control and a protective mom.  Ashley is here to speak with us today about the dangers of technology in domestic violence. In particular, Ashley believes that her husband, from whom she is currently separated, had been cyberstalking her…

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Episode 32: #SurvivorStories Series with Lana on her “Sophie’s Choice” to protect her daughter from CSA

On this #SurvivorStories Series episode, we speak with Lana, a protective mother whose failed plight to seek help from the legal and justice systems in New York City for her daughter has led her to find refuge in Russia.  Lana describes the police, court and child welfare response when she first suspected her toddler daughter…

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Episode 30: #SurvivorStories Series with Anita Gera and the misuse of the Hague Convention to harm children

In this #SurvivorSeries episode, we speak with Anita Gera, a protective mother from Great Britain.  In 2014, Anita went to British government to seek protection against her abusive and controlling ex-husband, an American pilot who was based in Arizona.  Over the next year, through her ex-husband’s misuse of the Hague Convention, Anita’s case brought her…

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The First Step to Healing is Admitting You’re in an Abusive Relationship

When I woke up this morning, I found this great tweet that summed it up perfectly — America is in an abusive relationship with her ‘president.’ I’ve been saying this since the election. I’m sure we can all remember what we were doing that night — November 8, 2016 — and how we felt the next morning. For me, that grim…

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Episode 6: #SurvivorStories Series Debut with “Elizabeth” on abuser tactics, signs of abuse and upstander tips

On this first episode of the series we call #SurvivorStories, we introduce the hashtags #abusertactics, #signsofabuse and #upstandertips to shed light on the multitude of ways in which abuse, power and control, or coercive control dynamics can manifest in a relationship.  Our goal is to help develop a cultural literacy around recognizing abuse of power.

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