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This Video is Authentic Gaslighting — not “Authentic Love”

A therapist friend recently shared the below video with me. While I was watching with her, I couldn’t help but pepper my viewing with angry interruptions to correct, challenge and/or contextualize their broad brush strokes that essentially rendered women responsible for patriarchal oppression against men. From Authentic Love Berlin   For those of us who…

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What do Jeff Bezos, Bernie Sanders, Karl Lagerfeld, and Phylicia Rashad have in common?

I’m a fan of TV family dramas, from Parenthood, to Party of Five, to Little House and to, of course, NBC’s This is Us. On yesterday’s episode of This is Us, fans of the show got an in depth look at one of the main character’s childhood back story — Phylicia Rashad make her debut as Beth’s mother, a story line that foreshadows…

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Weaponizing Race at the Expense of Survivor Safety and Abuser Accountability - Yet Again!

Imagine attending a #BlackLivesMatter organizing meeting and hearing the organizers spout #AllLivesMatter or #BlueLivesMatter as a rallying cry. Imagine going to a Title IX policy workshop that touted itself as a solution to strengthening accountability of campus rape and sexual assaults, then hearing the speakers refer to Brock Turner, not as a convicted rapist, but…

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When Cultural Policing Becomes a False Antidote to Accountability

Excerpt from bell hooks’ “Wounds of Passion: A Writing Life” Yesterday, John McCain, long-time Republican Senator from Arizona, passed away after a long battle with cancer. It was sad that he died, but death and mortality are a part of the human condition, however, his passing was particularly sad in that it was due to a…

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Understanding Voter Disenfranchisement as “Coercive Control”

Earlier this week, the Supreme Court issues a 5–4 ruling in the Husted v. A. Philip Randolph Institute case that allowed Ohio to continue its practice of purging voter rolls for voters who were deemed “ineligible” by virtue of non-voting or not responding. So, for example, if you fail to vote in a federal election…

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