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Episode 142: #SurvivorStories Series with Karen Gosbee on her memoir, “A Perfect Nightmare:  My Glittering Marriage and How It Almost Cost Me My Life”

April 1, 2021 Children, Domestic Violence, Gender-Based Violence, Podcasts, Sexism and Misogyny, Survivor Stories, Trauma and Abuse

On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is Karen Gosbee, domestic abuse, coercive control survivor, advocate for policy and system reform, and author of her memoir, A Perfect Nightmare:  My Glittering Marriage and How It Almost Cost Me My Life.  The book chronicles Karen’s journey to consciousness about her abuse, the roles her family and…

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Episode 124: #SurvivorStories Series with Shia Joyner on childhood domestic violence and stopping generational trauma

October 15, 2020 Domestic Violence, Podcasts, Policy, Sexism and Misogyny, Survivor Stories

On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast #SurvivorStories series, our guest is Shia Joyner, a survivor of childhood domestic violence and coercive control as an adult.  Shia joins us today to explore the ways in which witnessing childhood abuse has shaped her perceptions about love, informed her relationships, and impacted her own experience of domestic…

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Mother’s Day 2020 Episode Look Back

May 10, 2020 Blog

Mother’s Day, like many other holidays, can generate mixed feelings for many people.  For some who lost their mothers, it elicits a sense of loss.  For others who have conflicted relationships with their mothers, the day may present an unwelcome journey down memory lane they would rather not take.  For protective moms whose efforts to…

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Episode 70: Follow up to #SurvivorStories Series with Jessica Ingels–on courts giving custody to abusers

October 10, 2019 Children, Divorce and Custody, Domestic Violence, Gender-Based Violence, Motherhood, Podcasts, Policy, Prevention, Survivor Stories

On this episode of the en(gender)ed, I am responding to the flurry of attacks I received from publishing Jessica Ingels’ #SurvivorStories series episode last week.  Here is the transcript to this episode: Greetings listeners, survivors, advocates and allies: I am launching this episode as a follow up to our series on the weaponization of motherhood. …

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Episode 69: #SurvivorStories Series with Jessica Ingels on courts giving custody to abusers

October 3, 2019 Children, Divorce and Custody, Domestic Violence, Gender-Based Violence, Motherhood, Podcasts, Policy, Prevention, Survivor Stories

On this episode of the en(gender)ed #SurvivorStories series, our guest is Jessica Ingels, a protective mother and domestic violence victim and survivor.  In our conversation, Jessica describes the ways in which her abusive ex-husband has weaponized the courts against her to obtain custody of their daughter, despite her protective order against him and her status…

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